It is vital to discuss family history regarding substance use disorders (SUDs) in an open and compassionate way, so your student better understands their personal risk.
People with a family history of SUDs are 60% more likely to develop one themselves. Ensure your student knows where and how to seek help for themselves or a friend.
The first six weeks of college are crucial due to the social and academic pressures of their new environment.
Though you may not always think they are listening to you, 70% of students report that the expectations of their parents influence their alcohol and drug use during college
It does not need to be a formal or intimidating event when having these conversations. It is important to come from a place of love and understanding. You know your student. Find the way that feels the most natural for your family. Whatever you do, just talk about it!
Be calm, open, and prepare to listen to your student. This is not time for a lecture or to be judgmental. Now is the time to establish an open and loving conversation with your student.
Discuss the consequences of high-risk behaviors such as binge drinking, drinking and driving, or mixing substances.
» Bring up the topic conversationally and at a time when you can have a relaxed back-and-forth conversation. Revisit this topic often and throughout their time at college.
» Discuss your expectations around substance use along with facts about substance use. Ask them what their expectations will be about their or others’ substance use.
» “Don’t do it because I said so” is not a sufficient conversation.
» Discuss assertiveness skills in setting limits with others and practice ways they can refuse offers to use substances. Remind them that not all college students drink and that most students do not drink in high-risk ways that are often glamorized in the media.
» Avoid communication stoppers that tend to shut down the conversation like exaggerated statements, judgmental statements, and transitioning into an argument.
» Understand and talk about the high risks associated with drinking games, drinking large quantities of alcohol, and the importance of planning ahead when they will be in situations where substances will be present.
» Ask what concerns or questions they have about substance use on college campuses.
» Convey confidence in their ability to make healthy choices and know when to come to you to talk about this or anything else if they aren’t sure what to do.
» Ensure they know where and how to seek help for themselves or a friend.